Misery Loves Company

August 30th, 2009 by beautifulloser
“People always have advice about being together….when they’re all alone-Dru Hill”
Nokio was right on point when he wrote these lyrics in the song “What are we gonna Do?”. Doesn’t it seem like it’s always your single friends and family members that are the most judgmental about your relationship situation? They always claim to know and want what’s best for you. However, you can’t help thinking that if they knew so much, then why haven’t things worked out for them all this time?
It’s obvious that misery loves company in these situations. That friend that always point out negative things is definitely not trying to help things. That family member that always tries to place your man in the “dog” category, when he hasn’t done anything to give her a reason to feel that way is most likely trying to give you a reason to doubt that this relationship is where you want to be. The sad thing about it is that sometimes people are in denial about their own miserable life, which causes them to be unaware of their judgmental negative behavior.
There are ways of dealing with miserable people that don’t want to see you happy, without causing tension with your loved ones:
1. You could politely respond, after a negative comment, “I appreciate the fact that you’re concerned about me, but I am happy with my relationship. I would rather not discuss this subject anymore.”

2. Sometimes pure honesty and respect can get the job done, in a simple manner. “I respect your opinion, however I disagree with how you feel, and sometimes wonder if you ever have positive things to say about us.”
There is always going to be at least one miserable person in your life that will try to bring you down to their level. It is important that you remain true to your own feelings, and distinguish between honest feedback and miserable manipulation. Good day, people